5 04 2010

Sometimes I wonder if we even know what chivalry is. Chivalry is severely lacking in our culture today. I have this thing with giving you guys actual definitions from google because I can’t ever figure out how to say a definition in my own way, so heres the definition of chivalrous:  honorable, especially to women; involving chivalry or being attentive to women like an ideal knight. The fairy tales aren’t to far off then are they? =)

One reason that chivalry is so lacking is, honestly, because of feminism. A lot of women discourage you from acting like gentlemen because they have the mind set that men and women are exactly the same. That statement is a lie. In 1 Corinthians 11:3 it says:

“Now I want you to realize that the head of every man is Christ, and the head of the woman is man, and the head of Christ is God”

This doesn’t mean that men are above women it simply means that we are different, and that we have our places in God’s creation.

My friend opened the door for his cousin one time, and she totally flipped out and slapped him on the face. It’s like some girls think that it’s an insult of some kind. When you guys get that kind of reaction from us girls it discourages you and makes you think that you did something that girls don’t like. Which, some girls don’t like it, but that doesn’t take away the fact that being a gentleman is the right thing to do. I also know that being a gentleman isn’t the popular thing to do, but there are TONS of girls who are looking for a guy to be one! Plus, the girls that you want to attract, like being around those types of guys because usually those guys have respect for girls and we know that they won’t take advantage of us, or our friendship.

A couple of months ago my youth group went to conference in Ohio and one of my friends was a really cool example of being a gentlemen. It was really cold and icy and he walked one of our youth leaders (a woman) from the conference center to the van. I thought that was so awesome! And it was such a great thing for the other guys in my youth group to see.

Being a gentleman and chivalrous really isn’t that hard. Here are some things you can do for us:

Open the car door

Walk on the street side of the sidewalk

Offer her your seat

Hold the door open for her

Let her go first

offer to go start her car when it’s cold

Pump her gas

Just understand that one reason girls don’t want you to be chivalrous is because it makes them feel uncomfortable or babied. You have to make sure that you are doing these things in a way that won’t make you look like you don’t think we are capable to do it ourselves. We are still independant people! Practice on your sisters and close girl friends, it will help you when you are in a relationship =) Plus, you don’t have to be in a relationship to treat girls this way.




One response

15 04 2010

Hey I think this is a great post! It hits the problem right on the head. It really is something thats lacking in our society. Ill be the first one to admit that I need to work on this also. Your blog posts are huge encouragements to me and Im sure they are to other guys also so keep up the good work :)

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