It’s not ALL my fault

4 05 2010

I feel sorry for you guys sometimes. Those of you trying to live the lives that God wants for you, trying to keep your minds and hearts in the right place, trying not to lust after girls and everything, I commend you! I also respect you for it! I realize that a lot of times girls don’t help you accomplish these things. The way we dress and act has a huge impact on you and I get it. But, it’s not all the girls problem. Don’t think that you can justify what goes on in your head, by  blaming it on us or what we wear. Yes, every single girl should be trying to dress modestly, but not every girl does. Therefore, you have to do something about it. I’m not a guy, so I don’t know how hard it is to resist these thoughts but one guy explained it to me like this…

“I try to push it out of my head by thinking of other things, but it’s like an annoying fly, it keeps coming back. eventually it takes hold  because you feel like it’s pulling at your heart…literally. And the fighting of your thoughts is like trying to push a tank backwards…with your bare hands. Well, then it just goes down hill from there. It invades all your thoughts and actions because you can’t resist. Once it goes so far there is no going back..The trick is not letting it take foothold.

The key phrase here is “not letting it take foothold.” You can’t let it take foothold. One guy told me  “I can’t help it.” Well, I beg to differ! I talked to my brother about it and he simply said “Yes, he can help it. It just takes A LOT of work.” I’m sorry that there are girls out there who are causing you to stumble, but you can’t blame it all on us. You can control your thoughts! The Bible says

“Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable, if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think about these things.”- Philippians 4:8

This verse implies that we can chose what we think about, by telling us what to think about. If we can chose to think on good things then we can chose not to think about other things.

Matthew 5:28 says..

“But I say to you that everyone who looks at a woman with lustful intent has already committed adultery with her in his heart.”

The moment you look at a girl, and think something you shouldn’t, you’ve sinned. Plus, you’ve violated her. I know that sometimes these girls are pretty much asking to be violated anyway, but God tells us to resist our sexual temptations. Pray about it! Whenever you have that desire to sin, talk it out with God. Have a full out honest conversation with Him! He loves it when we talk to Him!

I’m not saying that looking at a girl and thinking “she’s pretty” is bad. It’s not. It’s when that thought is carried to “I wonder what she looks like in a bikini..” (or worse), then it’s a sinful desire that you need to take care of.

One last thought. In Hebrews 4:15 it talks about Jesus being tested in every way.

“This High Priest of ours understands our weaknesses, for he faced all of the same testings we do, yet he did not sin.” (emphasis added)

Think about that!




2 responses

4 05 2010

There are three areas of life:

1. Thoughts
2. Feelings
3. Events

Which one can we control? Answer: Our Thoughts

This isn’t always easy…it is a CHOICE. The mind: “The theatre of operations”. We must protect our minds (Ephesians 6:10-18). We have the ability, only because of God’s ability, to be TRANSFORMED by the RENEWING of our minds (Romans 12:2) taking CAPTIVE every thought to make it OBEDIENT to Christ (2 Corinthians 10:5) and FILL our minds with TRUTH and PURE thoughts (Philippians 4:8).

4 05 2010

So true, Kelly! It is SO important not to let sin gain ground in our lives. Like it says in James 1:14-15- “but each one is tempted when, by his own evil desire, he is dragged away and enticed. Then, after desire has conceived, it gives birth to sin; and sin, when it is full-grown, gives birth to death.”

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