The Girls Speak

17 10 2011

This video is a little older, but I haven’t put it up in awhile so I thought I’d give you another chance to check it out!

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The Girl translator

29 08 2011

So, I’m going to start a new thing called “The Girl Translator.” I will try to think of things girls say and tell you what we mean by them. The thing is, sometimes girls try to give you hints because we don’t want to hurt you or make ourselves look bad. With that being said here comes the first one…

Scenario:

You meet a girl in class and hit it off. You have no mutual friends and never run into each other, so the only way to hang out is to be intentional about it. You exchange phone numbers, add each other on facebook, or do whatever it is that you do to communicate, and you message her saying something like “Hey! Want to hang out sometime this week?”

Stop.

If her response is “Yeah! Sure, that’d be fun.” It means that she might interested in getting to know you as more than just a friend.

If her response is something like, “Sure, let’s get a group together and do something!” It’s translated into, “I really do want to hang out with you and get to know you! But I don’t like you as anything more than a friend so I am going to hang out with you, but only, with other people so I don’t lead you on.”

A lot of girls don’t like being straight up because they don’t want to hurt you. Getting a group together is her way of dropping a hint that she’s not interested without coming across as a jerk.  Giving you hints is our way of trying to get out of saying “I don’t like you as anything more than a friend…” The problem with this is that, for the most part, you guys don’t pick up those hints.

What are something girls say/do that you want to understand? I hope this helped in understanding us a little bit more!





Family

15 07 2011

I was out with friends for some half off appetizers at Applebees when the “girlfriend” of one of the guys got brought up.  He claimed that she “wasn’t his girlfriend” and after that comment, the typical “oh yeah, sure she’s not” conversation proceeded. When someone asked when she was coming in to town to visit, I was quick point out that no one brings a girl home without dating her.  I teased him about it a little bit but then his response stopped me. He said “Actually, I really want to know what my family has to say before we start dating.” Stop. Take a note. This rocks!

If your family is even slightly close to each other, they know you better than anybody. They can usually tell right away if she, or in my case he, isn’t good for you. Take their advice and listen to what they have to say!

It’s respectful and shows the character of the guy when he wants to know what the people closest to him have to say. It means he’s not blindly getting into anything based only on emotions; he’s taking it seriously. I feel like that is something a lot of people miss; the aspect of seriousness that dating should have. It should be the time you use to find out whether you are going to marry the person; not just play around with them.

Through the comment that “Steven” made, he gained my respect. I think the way he is handling the relationship is awesome and very encouraging! I also felt bad about teasing him because my thought was “oh, he’s just another guy afraid of commitment and doesn’t know what he thinks about it all.” When the reality was the exact opposite! So, “Steven”, if you read this…Sorry about that! :)





Devo 31

13 07 2011

I have been reading the book The Case for Faith by Lee Strobel and a man gave a very good illustration for faith. He asked if he were to pull something out of his pocket, hold it in his hand so we couldn’t see it, and tell us it was a dime, would we believe him? My answer would be “yes.” I  have no reason to believe otherwise and I have faith that he’s telling the truth. He then said that he was about to kill that faith. As soon as he opened his hand the faith will die because we have the solid fact of knowing. We no longer need faith in him because we can see it with our own eyes.

In the same way, God has shown us proof of His existence (which would be the same as telling us the dime was in the hand), but if He were to reveal Himself fully, we would have no need for faith; we would have too much knowledge. Faith is complete trust and confidence in someone or something. We wouldn’t have need for it if God showed Himself to us in a way which created no doubt or uncertainty. Just like when the hand was opened, our faith died, the same would happen with our relationships with God.

-Kelly





SUUMMERRR CHALLEEENGGEE

15 06 2011

Here is my summer challenge….

Find a good, solid, guy friend. School’s out, so maybe you aren’t as connected with your peers, but that’s not always a bad thing. In fact, maybe that’s the best thing for you right now! Everybody needs that one person to keep them accountable, help, listen, love, laugh with, tease, cry with, and struggle through life with. You, as a guy, need a guy to be that person.

I have 2 friends who I would consider my “best friends.” One is a guy and one is a girl. I talk to them both about a lot of things! But the relationships are different, not better or worse, just different. The interaction is different, the conversations are different, the way we show each other we care is different. Just as it should be.

You need a guy friend to stand by you just as I need my girl friend to stand by me. It’s good to have friends of both genders, but having a solid friend of the same gender is the best!

Where should you find said friends? Try getting involved in a church youth group! You’ll be amazed at how quickly you’ll find someone going through exactly what you’re going through! But don’t be surprised if it takes a little bit of work. You have to be a friend to have a friend.





Sexual Healing

1 06 2011

This guy did an awesome job! I love it! He is deep in a very tangible and understandable way.

 





Could You Shake His Hand?

20 04 2011

“Above all, I just want to do what God wants me to do… and I want to be able to come out of this relationship and be able to shake her husbands hand and look him in the eye”- a very wise friend of mine

This is a crazy statement to me. This statement screams man of God. Could you honestly say that you treat your relationship with your girlfriend in a way that neither of you will regret later? Are you treating her like you want your future wife to be treated by her boyfriends before you? Just some food for thought. What do you think?