15 07 2011

I was out with friends for some half off appetizers at Applebees when the “girlfriend” of one of the guys got brought up.  He claimed that she “wasn’t his girlfriend” and after that comment, the typical “oh yeah, sure she’s not” conversation proceeded. When someone asked when she was coming in to town to visit, I was quick point out that no one brings a girl home without dating her.  I teased him about it a little bit but then his response stopped me. He said “Actually, I really want to know what my family has to say before we start dating.” Stop. Take a note. This rocks!

If your family is even slightly close to each other, they know you better than anybody. They can usually tell right away if she, or in my case he, isn’t good for you. Take their advice and listen to what they have to say!

It’s respectful and shows the character of the guy when he wants to know what the people closest to him have to say. It means he’s not blindly getting into anything based only on emotions; he’s taking it seriously. I feel like that is something a lot of people miss; the aspect of seriousness that dating should have. It should be the time you use to find out whether you are going to marry the person; not just play around with them.

Through the comment that “Steven” made, he gained my respect. I think the way he is handling the relationship is awesome and very encouraging! I also felt bad about teasing him because my thought was “oh, he’s just another guy afraid of commitment and doesn’t know what he thinks about it all.” When the reality was the exact opposite! So, “Steven”, if you read this…Sorry about that! :)


Sexual Healing

1 06 2011

This guy did an awesome job! I love it! He is deep in a very tangible and understandable way.


Could You Shake His Hand?

20 04 2011

“Above all, I just want to do what God wants me to do… and I want to be able to come out of this relationship and be able to shake her husbands hand and look him in the eye”- a very wise friend of mine

This is a crazy statement to me. This statement screams man of God. Could you honestly say that you treat your relationship with your girlfriend in a way that neither of you will regret later? Are you treating her like you want your future wife to be treated by her boyfriends before you? Just some food for thought. What do you think?


27 02 2011

I recently asked some girls a question on facebook and wanted to share their answers with you! Our world constantly tells us how imperfect and plain we are but you can help change that. Here’s what some girls had to say.

What can guys do to make you feel beautiful and special?

“Standing up for you when another guy says something rude.” -Ivy

“For me, when my brothers and Dad give me a hug it definitely makes me feel loved and beautiful. It totally depends on the girl/love language, but when guys treat girls with brotherly love and respect and aren’t rude or perverted, when they build them up in Christ, ask what they can be praying about, etc.. it makes girls feel special/loved and beautiful in the right way. Its always nice to have someone tell you that you are beautiful, but it is potentially very inappropriate for a guy to go telling all his girl friends that all the time. haha I think this question is also contingent on whether you are talking about a dating relationship or a friendship. Because if you are in a relationship then a guy telling his girlfriend she is beautiful is totally appropriate. :-)” -Aubrey

“Geniunely caring when your struggling and just listening.” -Abby

“Just holding me when I cry-not talking or asking what’s wrong-just holding me and giving me a shoulder to cry on” -Brandi

“Noticing the natural parts of your beauty and saying it is always nice…rather than the comments that could be made about your jewlrey or the clothes your wearing.. sure those things make might make you feel good but I would rather hear about the nature beauty that every girl has :) … the parts that no girl has to try for.” -Stacey

“Being looked at in the eyes when I’m talking. That means the world to me.” Whitney

What do you think about what these girls had to say?

17 02 2011

Check this out! I think this is really cool. A highschool wrestler defaults because he doesn’t think it’s right to go up against a girl. He even gives up a chance at the state title! Woah! He says it’s because he respects her and it goes against his religious views. This guy is hardcore.

Devo 18

4 01 2011

I’ve been thinking about what it means to love lately.  To love, means to be like Christ, and according to 1 Corinthians 13:4-7, I fail-everyday. I think of the people that I come in contact with; co-workers and customers, friends and family, or the complete stranger at Wal*mart. What are somethings I can do to show these people love? I can smile and be friendly, I can help them and do things for them, I can respect them, I can be patient and courteous, and speak to them in a way that says ‘I have time for you’. I feel that one of the best ways to show Godly love toward someone is simply going out of your way for them and letting them know you care. It doesn’t have to be extravagant or pricey, just heartfelt and sincere. And it doesn’t have to be someone you know. Just someone you come in contact with.

Just a short little snap shot of what I’ve been thinking lately. I find that when I try to love and treat people like Christ, there is satisfaction. It makes me feel good, to make others feel good or brighten their day. I am blessed and encouraged by it!

Any thoughts?

Lead Me

18 11 2010

Leadership. It’s your role, take it.

I once wrote a post about nice guys. But guys should not simply be “nice guys.” Yes, you should be gentlemen and be kind to people, but the words “nice guy” tends to carry the connotation of  weakness. Men of God are not weak, they fight, they lead, and they take risks. They also love, care, and do what’s right. They realize they are frail human beings. They realize they make mistakes, but they also know that Christ is their strength. They do not accept the lie that they can’t be a strong man and a leader because they are a young (1 Timothy 4:12).

Tonight I was very proud of a friend of mine. He lead, not because he had to and not because he was made to, but because he he chose to. This friend has never been one to volunteer to lead. We’ve always had to push him some, but tonight he wanted to. It wasn’t anything huge, but leadership is leadership no matter how big or small.

Christian women want Christian men to be leaders. So many times I think that when the men don’t lead, the women feel the need to step in. I know I do. This isn’t good. Things go much better when men are in charge. (gasp! A girl just said that?! Yes, I did because it’s true.)

I (as well as other Christian girls) long for strong, young, leaders. We want guys around who will lead us in life and in our spiritual walks. Sure, we can get that from our youth pastor or other male leaders in the church, but there is something incredibly encouraging about a young man taking his God-given position of leadership…and leading.

When guys lead I feel safe, I feel respected, and I feel like things are how God created them to be. When you lead, you gain my respect.