The Girl translator

29 08 2011

So, I’m going to start a new thing called “The Girl Translator.” I will try to think of things girls say and tell you what we mean by them. The thing is, sometimes girls try to give you hints because we don’t want to hurt you or make ourselves look bad. With that being said here comes the first one…

Scenario:

You meet a girl in class and hit it off. You have no mutual friends and never run into each other, so the only way to hang out is to be intentional about it. You exchange phone numbers, add each other on facebook, or do whatever it is that you do to communicate, and you message her saying something like “Hey! Want to hang out sometime this week?”

Stop.

If her response is “Yeah! Sure, that’d be fun.” It means that she might interested in getting to know you as more than just a friend.

If her response is something like, “Sure, let’s get a group together and do something!” It’s translated into, “I really do want to hang out with you and get to know you! But I don’t like you as anything more than a friend so I am going to hang out with you, but only, with other people so I don’t lead you on.”

A lot of girls don’t like being straight up because they don’t want to hurt you. Getting a group together is her way of dropping a hint that she’s not interested without coming across as a jerk.  Giving you hints is our way of trying to get out of saying “I don’t like you as anything more than a friend…” The problem with this is that, for the most part, you guys don’t pick up those hints.

What are something girls say/do that you want to understand? I hope this helped in understanding us a little bit more!





Devo 23

4 03 2011

People have questions so, we as Christians, need to be ready to answer them! Bring up God and draw those questions out. I’ve learned that people, for the most part, are willing to talk about God. In fact, they want to because  they  can’t figure out what is missing from their lives. Be intentional about initiating conversation because once it’s started, it just takes off from there.

This next week, make an effort to start up a God conversation. It’s invigorating and exciting! It may be awkward, and it may be hard, but awkward is awesome if you are helping lead someone toward Christ!

And don’t forget to pray, pray, pray! We are in a battle that can’t be won without God on our side!

-Kelly





Abortion

29 01 2011

I wrote a letter to the editor, although I don’t know if it will get published. Let me know what you think!

As a 17 year old, senior in high school I am disappointed and angered by our society. Our priorities have been confused, and the value of life has been diminished. Something needs to change.

Here’s a recent example. I went to the library to renew my card and was told unless I was 18, a parent/guardian had to sign for me. I hold 2 jobs, have a drivers license and a car, take college classes, etc. but cannot get a library card without parental consent.

But, here’s the double standard. I, as a 17 year old female, am legally permitted to have an abortion WITHOUT my guardians signature but cannot simply renew my library card without it? That is ridiculous!

Society say it is my “choice” as a woman to have an abortion, but I am not mature enough to be responsible for library books? Lives are changed by abortion. In fact, lives are destroyed by it. Why is it that we put more restrictions on a library card then something as serious as killing babies in the womb? We need to open our eyes to the real problems in our world.

I understand the library rules and restrictions, but our society needs to be consistent in it’s standards. People seem more interested in material things, such as library books,  then the lives of the future generations. Think about it. How does this make sense?

 





Devo 18

4 01 2011

I’ve been thinking about what it means to love lately.  To love, means to be like Christ, and according to 1 Corinthians 13:4-7, I fail-everyday. I think of the people that I come in contact with; co-workers and customers, friends and family, or the complete stranger at Wal*mart. What are somethings I can do to show these people love? I can smile and be friendly, I can help them and do things for them, I can respect them, I can be patient and courteous, and speak to them in a way that says ‘I have time for you’. I feel that one of the best ways to show Godly love toward someone is simply going out of your way for them and letting them know you care. It doesn’t have to be extravagant or pricey, just heartfelt and sincere. And it doesn’t have to be someone you know. Just someone you come in contact with.

Just a short little snap shot of what I’ve been thinking lately. I find that when I try to love and treat people like Christ, there is satisfaction. It makes me feel good, to make others feel good or brighten their day. I am blessed and encouraged by it!

Any thoughts?





Devo #11

13 10 2010

The people who act like they are fine, and like they’ve got it all together, can be the people who are the most broken. Never let an opportunity to be nice to someone, or encourage someone, slip by.

-Kelly





Flirty Girls

2 10 2010

Guys, don’t let us flirt with you. Or at least don’t engage in or encourage it. I have girl friends who flirt with anything male and it drives me crazy! Today for instance, “Jenny,” who is one of the girls that flirts with all the guys, was flirting with “Peter,”  and I could tell that he was thinking more of the situation then she was. Jenny  knew that he liked her, but still continued to flirt with him. She was leading him on, which is totally mean. I honestly felt sorry for the Peter because she does not like him in the same way. She wants the attention and flirting is fun for her because she gets it that way. It’s too bad she’s using him to feel good about herself.

When you sense that a girl is flirting with you and it’s just because she wants the attention, be nice but in the process don’t flirt. We all know how to flirt, and we know when we are doing it, so just don’t flirt back. When you do, it just gives the girl that more of a reason to do it, because her way of getting attention and feeling good about herself is working.

So, don’t let girls win on this one. I know it’s hard because you like the attention just like we do. But when you go along with it, it encourages us to continue to play with your emotions, and that’s just not cool.





A Girls Self-worth

23 08 2010

I am recycling a post from a few months ago because this topic has really been in my head lately. I was going to write another one but then realized that I was saying exactly the same thing :P So I just decided to repost this one with a few add ons and edits! :)

Can I be completely honest here? Good, because I’m going to anyway :P You have the power to cause a  girl to  have self-image problems, feel worthless, have eating disorders, and  have a low self-esteem. But you may be saying “whoa whoa whoa Kelly! Are you saying that these things are my fault?!”  No, I’m not,  but you can be the cause at times. You may be thinking that I am being a little dramatic, right? I mean how do you have control over this one? Well, I’m going to tell you :)

I have heard guys tell girls that they are fat, or ugly or both! I just want to smack those guy! You don’t say something like that to a girl! A lot of girls will act like it doesn’t matter, like it doesn’t bother them. But in all reality it does. Our society tells girls to be as thin as possible and as pretty as possible. This means that girls end up looking like a toothpicks with a head. When you bash what we look like it only affirms what the movies and magazines are telling us, that we aren’t beautiful the way we are. That is one of the biggest lies girls are told! We need our guy friends do be affirming us, not affirming what we look like. (although the occasional “you look nice” or “I like that shirt” when you mean it is appreciated! haha)

There are girls out there who don’t have self-image issues, I don’t want to make it sound like ALL girls struggle with it, but every girl has been told the lie that there is somebody else out there who is more beautiful and that they will never measure up! We are told that perfection is the only way we will ever be worth something. The problem with that is, is that perfection is impossible. Therefore, the lie sets in that we will never be worth anything.

I have guy friends that joke about girls weight around them. For example, they will say something like “move over chubs” and I know they don’t mean it because they never do it to a girl who is overweight, but you never know what’s going on with that girl. Maybe she thinks she’s overweight and you saying that just affirmed that lie in her head. I had a guy friend say something joking like that to me and I said “That’s mean” and he said “Kelly, you know I wouldn’t say it if it were true!” I know he didn’t mean it, but for a second it hurt, and because I said something about it he affirmed in me that it wasn’t true, but most girls won’t call you on it. They will just think “He’s right. I am fat.” Whether that results in something as serious as an eating disorder or not, her self-esteem just dropped a little and she may be a little more conscious of the things she doesn’t like about herself, rather than the things she does like. That’s when insecurity and the feeling worthlessness start to work their way in. This is huge for girls! So many girls think they are ugly and therefore think they are worthless. How sad is that?

You are not the only cause of what goes on with a girls self-esteem and self-worth, I blame society and media for a lot of it, but sometimes you don’t help. Try to be a little more conscious of what you say. Just like you want us to do (or not do) things to help you out, we also would love it for you to do the same! :D