The Girl translator

29 08 2011

So, I’m going to start a new thing called “The Girl Translator.” I will try to think of things girls say and tell you what we mean by them. The thing is, sometimes girls try to give you hints because we don’t want to hurt you or make ourselves look bad. With that being said here comes the first one…


You meet a girl in class and hit it off. You have no mutual friends and never run into each other, so the only way to hang out is to be intentional about it. You exchange phone numbers, add each other on facebook, or do whatever it is that you do to communicate, and you message her saying something like “Hey! Want to hang out sometime this week?”


If her response is “Yeah! Sure, that’d be fun.” It means that she might interested in getting to know you as more than just a friend.

If her response is something like, “Sure, let’s get a group together and do something!” It’s translated into, “I really do want to hang out with you and get to know you! But I don’t like you as anything more than a friend so I am going to hang out with you, but only, with other people so I don’t lead you on.”

A lot of girls don’t like being straight up because they don’t want to hurt you. Getting a group together is her way of dropping a hint that she’s not interested without coming across as a jerk.  Giving you hints is our way of trying to get out of saying “I don’t like you as anything more than a friend…” The problem with this is that, for the most part, you guys don’t pick up those hints.

What are something girls say/do that you want to understand? I hope this helped in understanding us a little bit more!



15 07 2011

I was out with friends for some half off appetizers at Applebees when the “girlfriend” of one of the guys got brought up.  He claimed that she “wasn’t his girlfriend” and after that comment, the typical “oh yeah, sure she’s not” conversation proceeded. When someone asked when she was coming in to town to visit, I was quick point out that no one brings a girl home without dating her.  I teased him about it a little bit but then his response stopped me. He said “Actually, I really want to know what my family has to say before we start dating.” Stop. Take a note. This rocks!

If your family is even slightly close to each other, they know you better than anybody. They can usually tell right away if she, or in my case he, isn’t good for you. Take their advice and listen to what they have to say!

It’s respectful and shows the character of the guy when he wants to know what the people closest to him have to say. It means he’s not blindly getting into anything based only on emotions; he’s taking it seriously. I feel like that is something a lot of people miss; the aspect of seriousness that dating should have. It should be the time you use to find out whether you are going to marry the person; not just play around with them.

Through the comment that “Steven” made, he gained my respect. I think the way he is handling the relationship is awesome and very encouraging! I also felt bad about teasing him because my thought was “oh, he’s just another guy afraid of commitment and doesn’t know what he thinks about it all.” When the reality was the exact opposite! So, “Steven”, if you read this…Sorry about that! :)

Devo 31

13 07 2011

I have been reading the book The Case for Faith by Lee Strobel and a man gave a very good illustration for faith. He asked if he were to pull something out of his pocket, hold it in his hand so we couldn’t see it, and tell us it was a dime, would we believe him? My answer would be “yes.” I  have no reason to believe otherwise and I have faith that he’s telling the truth. He then said that he was about to kill that faith. As soon as he opened his hand the faith will die because we have the solid fact of knowing. We no longer need faith in him because we can see it with our own eyes.

In the same way, God has shown us proof of His existence (which would be the same as telling us the dime was in the hand), but if He were to reveal Himself fully, we would have no need for faith; we would have too much knowledge. Faith is complete trust and confidence in someone or something. We wouldn’t have need for it if God showed Himself to us in a way which created no doubt or uncertainty. Just like when the hand was opened, our faith died, the same would happen with our relationships with God.


Could You Shake His Hand?

20 04 2011

“Above all, I just want to do what God wants me to do… and I want to be able to come out of this relationship and be able to shake her husbands hand and look him in the eye”- a very wise friend of mine

This is a crazy statement to me. This statement screams man of God. Could you honestly say that you treat your relationship with your girlfriend in a way that neither of you will regret later? Are you treating her like you want your future wife to be treated by her boyfriends before you? Just some food for thought. What do you think?


11 03 2011

Love doesn’t come out of desperation, period. -Chad Eastham

For most of us, I would assume, see this quote and think, “Of course it doesn’t!” But if we were to step back and take a look at our own lives, how many times have we so desperately wanted love that we were willing to do anything to get it? Whether it’s a dating relationships or even friendships, we long to connect with people. I can remember being so desperate for friends when I was younger that I became something I never wanted to be. I was desperate. I conformed to what they wanted me to be so that I could have the “love” and “companionship” of a group of girls. I’m glad I didn’t chose a different group of people or I would have really gotten myself into trouble. But now I see that true relationships and true love don’t come out of simply longing and conforming. They come from being the person that God created us to be. Real relationships come from God.

Just because we want something, doesn’t mean it’s good for us and when we search for relationships out of desperation we are simply setting ourselves up for failure. Have you ever noticed the people who date around and constantly have a girlfriend/boyfriend are also the moodiest people you’ve ever met? They are “happy”, that is, until they break up. Then they fall into this deep hole that they don’t think they can get out of until they get into another relationship. This is not healthy! They seek love out of desperation.

We are relational beings and that’s how God created us! But he wants us to have good, healthy relationships that come out of real love for each other; not lust, infatuation, or desperation. In reality, the only way to get our relationships on earth right, is to get our relationship with God right. Even then there will be issues, but with God there is hope!

Encouragement for Singles on Vday

14 02 2011

Don’t compare your relationship status with those around you. It’s hard not to look at all the happy couples on this day, but focus on the good things. Last night I had a conversation with a friend and I said “Tomorrow is singles awareness day.” And his response was “I know! And I’m ok with that. It’s so much better not to be in a relationship right now.” He understands that it is good for him not to be dating at the moment and has taken that and made even better friendships.

So, for those of you who don’t have plans today, embrace being single. Use it to build friendships with people. Old and new.


2 02 2011

So, my youth pastor and I made a video this fall and I just now finished it. I am a procrastinator and I don’t like sitting still to do things such as editing. Therefore, it is just now getting done! Let me know what you think! :)