15 07 2011

I was out with friends for some half off appetizers at Applebees when the “girlfriend” of one of the guys got brought up.  He claimed that she “wasn’t his girlfriend” and after that comment, the typical “oh yeah, sure she’s not” conversation proceeded. When someone asked when she was coming in to town to visit, I was quick point out that no one brings a girl home without dating her.  I teased him about it a little bit but then his response stopped me. He said “Actually, I really want to know what my family has to say before we start dating.” Stop. Take a note. This rocks!

If your family is even slightly close to each other, they know you better than anybody. They can usually tell right away if she, or in my case he, isn’t good for you. Take their advice and listen to what they have to say!

It’s respectful and shows the character of the guy when he wants to know what the people closest to him have to say. It means he’s not blindly getting into anything based only on emotions; he’s taking it seriously. I feel like that is something a lot of people miss; the aspect of seriousness that dating should have. It should be the time you use to find out whether you are going to marry the person; not just play around with them.

Through the comment that “Steven” made, he gained my respect. I think the way he is handling the relationship is awesome and very encouraging! I also felt bad about teasing him because my thought was “oh, he’s just another guy afraid of commitment and doesn’t know what he thinks about it all.” When the reality was the exact opposite! So, “Steven”, if you read this…Sorry about that! :)


17 02 2011

Check this out! I think this is really cool. A highschool wrestler defaults because he doesn’t think it’s right to go up against a girl. He even gives up a chance at the state title! Woah! He says it’s because he respects her and it goes against his religious views. This guy is hardcore.

Devo 18

4 01 2011

I’ve been thinking about what it means to love lately.  To love, means to be like Christ, and according to 1 Corinthians 13:4-7, I fail-everyday. I think of the people that I come in contact with; co-workers and customers, friends and family, or the complete stranger at Wal*mart. What are somethings I can do to show these people love? I can smile and be friendly, I can help them and do things for them, I can respect them, I can be patient and courteous, and speak to them in a way that says ‘I have time for you’. I feel that one of the best ways to show Godly love toward someone is simply going out of your way for them and letting them know you care. It doesn’t have to be extravagant or pricey, just heartfelt and sincere. And it doesn’t have to be someone you know. Just someone you come in contact with.

Just a short little snap shot of what I’ve been thinking lately. I find that when I try to love and treat people like Christ, there is satisfaction. It makes me feel good, to make others feel good or brighten their day. I am blessed and encouraged by it!

Any thoughts?

Why Do Girls Dress the Way They Do?

4 07 2010

     I have always known that modesty was important, that I needed to help out my guy friends, and it was something that was expected of me from my family. I have never wanted to dress immodestly but just within the past couple of weeks I have really begun to understand the vast importance of dressing modestly. Why? Well, I don’t want to do or wear anything that will make you stumble. It’s that simple. I want your respect and I want you to know I respect you. I also want you to know I respect myself and how I dress can show all of this.

     But why do girls dress the way they do? Honestly, a lot of  it is a self-image issue, a respect issue, and a love issue. It’s a self-image issue because the world is telling me that I have to be a size double O jean, have every guys attention, and do my hair a certain way. The way the world sees girls defines a lot of girls self-image. They aren’t a double O, not all the guys are attracted to them, and their hair just doesn’t work like she want’s it to, therefore she deems herself as hopelessly flawed and worthless. So in order to change that feeling of worthlessness,  she tries to wear a double O (even though that makes her jeans way to tight) and then wears tops that are revealing because she knows she will get a guys attention that way (even though that’s not the kind of attention she really want’s). She views herself as nothing unless she looks like the airbrushed model in the magazine, and has the attention of boys.

     It’s a respect issue because, like I said, she views herself as worthless, therefore she has little to no respect for herself. By flaunting her body she is showing that she does not respect her body or herself. To me, it also shows that she doesn’t expect the respect of you either, although that is usually a subconscious thing because girls are always complaining about the lack of respect that the guys show them. I just want to  say “Look at what you are wearing. Of course they don’t respect you.” But I have always held back haha.

     It’s a love issue. You know why? Because she can’t love herself so she wants yours. She can’t get it by being herself, remember? because she thinks she’s worthless so why would anybody want her? She can only get your “love” by flaunting the sex appeal. Usually the love issue always stems from something like the lack of love she has gotten at home. Maybe her dad wasn’t around, or maybe he was physically but not emotionally. Whatever the reason, she wants to feel love by getting the attention from guys. When you get the feeling that’s what a girl wants, for you to fill a void, that should be a red flag because you can’t fill it. It doesn’t matter how hard you try.

     I think that a lot of this isn’t processed by the girls while they are in it. But a lot of women say the same things I’ve said once they step back and look at their past, or even their present. Once Jesus is the main focus and HE is what they are striving to please they realize why they dressed and acted in certain ways; to please others not God.

     The bottom line is, girls want your attention and we know how to get it. We know that if we dress ourselves a certain way and/or act a certain way that we will get a guys attention. The question is, is it the right kind of attention? No, and the kind of guys that respond to this kind of behavior aren’t the kind of guys that any girl should be willing to lower herself to.

Nice guys finish last? NO!

26 02 2010

Lately I have been hearing guys say some stuff that really makes me hurt for them. They have been saying things like; “The nice guys always finish last.” or “girls never give the good guys a second glance.” This is the farthest from the truth. Girls (the Christian girls striving toward Christ) would rather be around the nice guys. We don’t just notice the jocks, the funny guys, or the flirts, and we certainly don’t respect them. If a girl is just paying attention to these types of guys, then why are you interested in her?

Some guys seem to think that girls want a shallow flirty guy who has no boundaries. And some girls do want that. But what a girl sometimes wants, isn’t always whats best for them. An actual scientific study showed that the flirty girls who always have to have attention from guys and try to get that attention, don’t have good solid men in their lives. Maybe they don’t have a dad who loves them, or at least he doesn’t act like he does. Maybe they have been abused. So, for these girls they just want your attention because they don’t know where else to get it. And in order to get it they flirt with you. It’s your job to give girls what is best for them, not what they “ask” for. My brother said something very interesting while we were walking downtown somewhere. He said “These girls are just asking to be raped. Look at what they are wearing!” Isn’t that a thought provoking statement? When girls wear inappropriate clothing, we do anything but help you out. The thing is that girls know that how they dress has an impact on you. My point is, is that girls don’t make it easy for you to respect them. I get it. But it’s your job to do it anyway.  I also know that me saying it is a whole lot easier than you doing it!

For those of you who consider yourself a “nice guy”, keep it up! The world needs more of you! I think I can safely say that Christian girls get really tired of the cocky, perverted guys in the world! It is a breath of fresh air when a guy is genuinely nice and caring just because he can be, not because he wants to flirt with you! There is a lack of respect in our culture that is so intensely needed!

For those of you who think of yourselves as one of the “cocky and perverted guys” I challenge you not give girls what they “ask” for. Give them what is best for them, which in this point in our lives would be friendship and respect.  Help them know that they are worth more than they give themselves credit for and that they don’t need to flirt with guys in order to get attention. The kind of attention they are getting isn’t the kind that they want or need! They are lowering themselves and their standards, which are two things a girl should never feel like she has to do!